The light bulb
Sometimes a light goes off in my head and just about blinds me. That happened today. When I decided to start seeing Michael again, I said I would take the good with the bad and not put my expectations on him. I’ve tried to live with the philosophy of “ Let them”. I have a long way to go to just let things be but I believe I am doing better. When he changes the memories to meet his narrative, I let him. When he says he didn’t say something or do something, I let him. I cannot control how he wants to remember things or how he remembers the past. I can only let him know I remember it differently. Today I brought up love languages. I asked if he knew what they were. He said yes he does. I asked if he knew what his were. He said acts of service. I agreed and supplied his next one as words of affirmation. He agreed that this was a big one too. I asked if he knew mine. He said quality time is your top one and I supplied touch is equal to quality time. Both had the same rating on th...